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What started as a digital diary to document a newfound journey as a stay at home mom / wife has quickly evolved into my own little corner on the internet where I share all that life brings my way -- the good, the bad, and those "aha!" moments. All with a hint of sarcasm, a dash of truth and bold European wit. Thanks for following along!

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4.06.2020

Alexander :: Pregnancy + Labor Story


I cannot believe that this baby boy is about to turn one and I have yet to publish his birth story. I'm so embarrassed, but at the same time, I'm not because y'all, I have three boys and let me tell you, life is busy around here. What's important is that I'm finally doing it, right? So, here's the rundown of how little Alex came into this world.

How I Found Out + Reaction 

I feel like I always say this, but this pregnancy took me by complete surprise. I found out I was pregnant just 5 months after I had Marcus -- yup. You read that right, five months. I cannot tell you how surprised I was when I took the test.

I first suspected I was pregnant when I was on vacation and we were driving home from Disneyland to La Quinta. Well, my husband suspected it. I was getting really car sick and could not keep myself composed for a two-hour drive. I never get car sick, so that was really not like me. 

On a late Walmart run, after we arrived in La Quinta, my husband grabbed a pregnancy test and casually mentioned that I should take it because it's a possibility. Ya never know until you know, right?

So, I took it to humor him. He and my siblings were at the door waiting for the results. There was one bold line and one very faint line, so of course, I thought, a false positive. I walked out and told him, I'm probably not pregnant, but there is a faint line that I think I'm seeing. Everyone passed around the test and we couldn't decide if it was positive or negative. We decided that he would go back to Walmart in the morning and get one of those tests that spell it out for you -- not pregnant. 

Fast forward to the next morning and test, boom -- pregnant.  

We told close family and friends and the reactions were mostly good. Most of everyone we told was excited to hear that we were pregnant, but some family members thought it was too soon and that I needed to lose the baby weight first -- oh well, someone's gotta be that person, right? My husband was thrilled which is the most important reaction to me and I too was pleasantly surprised because even though I wasn't expecting it,  I do love babies. 

At Disneyland; totally unaware that I'm about to have another baby

The Pregnancy 

This pregnancy was rough because I had two other kids both under the age of two who were not letting me rest when I needed to, but other than that pregnancy itself was normal -- no complications or risks; thank you Jesus. I do feel like this pregnancy zoomed by though. I mean, I was pregnant and then I had the baby. Everything else is a hazy blur that I can not remember.


I announced on  Instagram at 14 weeks (with the photo above) and then booked an appointment at 15 weeks to find out the gender because I was sooooo hoping for a daughter. Y'all, I went to that appointment and Alex had his legs crossed with the umbilical cord in the middle and they could not see any boy parts. The ultrasound tech told me it's a girl, but to come back in two days just to make sure. 

I WAS SO EXCITED TO BE HAVING A GIRL and was already thinking of girl names, planning all the cute mom daughter things we'd do annnnnnnd then I went back to double-check that my joy was not short-lived. Well, I got on the table, she jellied up my belly and started to look. It wasn't long before she broke the silence and said, "well, good thing you came back because it's definitely not a girl." HAHA. I cannot tell you how funny I found that to be because even though I was getting excited about a baby girl, the back of my mind was always like with your luck, it's a boy, just watch. 

On the drive home from that appointment, my husband and I talked boy names. Alexander Jude was decided right there and then, no other opinions needed. I was ready to meet that sweet baby boy then and there. 

late February ::  7 mo. pregnant and exhausted

Soooooo, the pregnancy went on until March when I started to have trouble walking and running after Marcus, so we sent him to stay at my mom's on the weekends and when my husband had school all day. He was too energetic and too much of a thrill-seeker, so keeping him safe as I was waddling everywhere was really hard. 



On April 17th, I went to a routine check-up and was told that I was 3 cm dilated and 70% effaced. I was told that if I suspected anything, to call in and go in because of my last pregnancy with Marcus where my water broke and I had the baby within 2 hours of it breaking. I went home and was excited because Marcus had come early and I was secretly hoping that Alex would too. I was so over being pregnant. 

So, on the 20th, I kept noticing that my underwear was wet after changing several times. I called in and the doctor on call told me to come in. I went on in and the nurses on staff told me it was a very busy night thus far. They showed me to my room and then the head nurse came in, told me everyone was busy and that she would be taking care of me. She also mentioned that she hopes the night quiets down from here on out. 

I was never seen by the doctor and after the nurse tested for amniotic fluid, I was dismissed and quickly sent me home because the test did not show my water had broken. I was furious because I was having contractions every eight to six minutes, but the nurse insisted that I was fine and told me to drink lots of water. She told me I probably peed myself and I was instructed not call  / come back unless my contractions were less than 5 minutes apart.

Wellllllllllll, the next four days were literal torture. I was contracting 6 to 4 minutes a majority of the day, but would have a gap of 10 minutes in between, so I didn't call in. I sat, sometimes crying from the pain, but waited for the next doctor's appointment because I'm that patient that does not like to bother medical staff.

Labor + Birth 

My next OBGYN appointment was 4 days after my hospital visit and my sister tells me that I seemed completely out of it. Probably because I was. I was starting to feel like my back was going to break with every step that I took. Anyway, I arrived at the office for my afternoon appointment, had the baby's heartbeat checked and then told my doctor what had happened on Saturday. Because I was 34 weeks (1 day shy of 35 weeks), she said that she would check to see if my water was actually broken. 

She went to check and could not find the amniotic fluid sac and mentioned that it was unusually wet down there. I was now 5 cm dilated and my contractions were consistent on her monitor. She told me she was sending me straight to the hospital and told me that I was having this baby today. 

Excited, I went down to my car, got in and drove myself to the hospital -- luckily my husband was having his nursing school clinical in the same hospital, so we met in the parking lot and then onward to the maternity ward. 

I checked in, they hooked me up to the machines and my husband decided he wanted to drive Marcus and Felix to my mom's. I told him to stay because they were fine with my sister, but he insisted on going. The nurse said that it could be a while, so he left and I was alone in a room waiting for my doctor. 

While chatting with my nurse, I had mentioned that my babies tend to come fast, so we both decided that it would be best to get my epidural before they place the Pitocin in my system. My contractions were consistent, so we got the epidural, and shortly after the Pitocin went in. Fifteen minutes in, the Pitocin made the baby's heart drop a bit, so the nurse stopped it and said they'd wait a bit more before starting up again. They called my doctor and told her to come soon because my contractions were speeding up on the machine.  

Literally five minutes after I had the Pitocin stopped, I felt pressure, so I told the nurse. She lifted the blanket to see Alex crowning. She rushed out of the room, rushed back in with 4 other nurses accompanying her starting to get the room ready for delivery and my doctor flew in like a rushing bullet. 

The nurse's hand was stopping Alex from popping out and all I heard was "don't push, don't move, don't laugh, this baby is coming and we aren't ready!" The doctor grabbed some gloves and her gown, popped down and said, "okay, push" and with that one-half push, my little baby boy was earthside at 6:09 pm April 24, 2019, weighing 6 pounds 7 ounces. 

And right as baby boy popped out into the doctor's hands, in waltz my husband asking, "wait, did I miss it."  They placed the baby on my chest after my husband cut the cord and all the nurses marveled at how quick everything went. Several of them joked that I should have more babies because that was a breeze.


Alexander was quick to latch, his blood sugar levels quickly stabilized, and he passed all his screening with soaring colors. We spent two days in the hospital and then off we went to meet his brothers and start life as a family of five.

Thinking Back 

I wish I would have written this blog post earlier. Haha, but really all jokes aside, one thing I wish I did differently was to advocate for myself when that nurse sent me away. I was at home in active labor for four days and had all my water been depleted, both my baby and I could have suffered from a life-threatening infection. Worst case scenario, we both could have died.  

My water sac was slowly leaking and I knew I wasn't crazy, but I also trusted that the medical staff was doing their job. That nurse clearly didn't want another patient and I saw her again when I went in to give birth -- to which she rolled her eyes and avoided my room my entire stay. 

At this hospital, the head nurse is supposed to check in on you each morning and she never did come to see me even though she was on the floor. My husband said she greeted him nicely on the second day, but that's probably because I didn't rat her out to her supervisor. Whatever her reasoning was, I hope that she treats patients better. 

Anywaaaaaay, life with Alex is amazing, I can't tell you how much joy this baby boy has brought to our little family. We are fully enjoying our sweet chunk of a many, so happy that he's healthy and thriving along with the rest of us. 


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4.02.2020

Black Bear Diner | First Impression + Review

During this time of social distancing and quarantining, mealtime is something that we look forward to because it another way to spend time with the family that doesn't include technology. Even though we're at home ALL day long, spending time cooking seems to be harder than it was before. My kids are bouncing off the walls from being stuck inside all day and it makes me nervous to cook full-blown meals when they are running through the kitchen trying to grab and see what's on the counter.

On the most hectic of days, we turn to take out / delivery for peace of mind. Last night was one of those nights and we tried Black Bear Diner in an attempt to branch away from our typical pizza joint / burger place nearby. & y'all let me just say -- it was delicious.


We opted for the family to go meal that consisted of 4 huuuuuge chicken fried steaks, 4 cornbread muffins, mashed potatoes, fries, and seasonal vegetables. We also added on some salad and mac and cheese to our order for the kids. All I can say was that it was a feast fit for kings -- there was so much food!


I was really impressed that a family meal was so large! It's perfect for a mom whose mini crew eats like mountain men. I really appreciated the fact that the menu had something for everyone. It made feeding picky eaters a breeze.



Black Bear Diner doesn't just have dinner options; they do breakfast and lunch too! Upon browsing the menu, I feel like I am going to have to try all their options because everything on the menu sounded so delicious -- see the menu here. In short, we were all super satisfied with Black Bear Diner and are looking forward to ordering from them again especially when the quarantine / social distancing orders seem to be extending into May.

If you're wondering about Black Bear Diner in relation to where you are -- click here. You can order online and choose take out / delivery depending on what your local authorities permit you to do during these social distancing days. It's a great option on a day when you want a good meal and don't have the energy to crank out any kitchen trinkets.

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3.24.2020

Keeping The Littles Busy | 40+ Indoor Activities


If you're like me, you can't afford to binge shows during this time of social distancing because your kids don't appreciate shows like The Office or Friends like you do. So, what are you to do when you're going stir crazy and your kids are bouncing off the walls? What do you do when Disney+ isn't keeping the toddler's attention and they've started to cause mayhem to occupy themselves?

It's rough, right? To be honest, this mama is starting to go stir crazy -- literally feeling like the walls are swallowing us up. I'm a stay at home mom, but we typically interact with the human race on normal days. Being stuck inside for 3 weeks is starting to reaaaaaalllllly get to us, so I've decided to share a contemplation of resources / activities that will keep the little ones occupied while you stay in. There are many resources for school-aged kids out there right now, but if we're being honest, it's the toddler parents that are going nuts... especially in places where the weather doesn't permit them to be outside in the backyard.

So without further ado, here's some stuff to keep everyone sane and having fun! 

Virtual Tours :: this is a link to a comprehensive list -- a lot of them are museums that adults can enjoy (hey, mama has got to stay sane too), but the zoos and aquarium section is perfect for little people.

Other tours that your little ones may like: National Parks and Farms.

Roller Coaster Rides :: my little guys love watching these on youtube. Here are some of our favorite youtube channels that provide hours of entertainment. This is probably my favorite because they keep the boy's attention for more than 10 minutes!

⚙ CoasterForce
Sharp Production
PewPewPew
⚙ ThemePark HD
⚙ iThemePark

Virtual / Audio Books :: a great way to spark the imagination on a rainy day. We use StoryLine and we listen to Disney audiobooks on Spotify -- here's a link to our playlist. We also have the kids listen to Bible Stories here.

Photo Shoot / Silly Selfies :: Instagram + Snapchat Filters to the rescue here. Not even joking here. We can spend like 45 minutes sounding like chipmunks and taking pictures of our faces looking silly.

Karaoke :: nothing better than kids singing Baby Shark at the top of their lungs, am I right?

Those are all things that you can do utilizing the screen, so here are some other activities that you can so with your little ones that don't involve technology.

Build a Fort 

Bake Cookies

Chores -- let them wipe the windows and push around your heavy vacuum

Prepare a Meal together -- let them put a sandwich together, make a pizza or let them pour the juice in the glasses.. anything to make these little people feel like they're doing the best job in the world as your assistant.

Make Sock Puppets 

Set Up A Race Track -- crank out the painter's tape and go, go go!

PLAAAAAY DOH -- messy, but so worth it in these desperate times.

Stickers -- also kind of messy, but we have a designated notebook for them to stick on.

⚙ Coloring Pages -- my guys love these. If your kids are like mine, they like to color images of things they see on the screen / from their favorite shows, so we get our sheets from here. To keep things fun, one day they'll color with crayons, but the next day they'll use fingerpaint or watercolors!

Arts + Crafts -- I just drop a bunch of supplies on the table and let them get creative because what's the point of directing people who avoid listening to directions. Pinterest has so many ideas, but keep it simple with cotton balls, glue, markers, and googly eyes.

Slime -- again, desperate times call for desperate measures.

Play House / Store & Cops and Robbers -- orrrrr be a patient at the toddler's hospital, get silly.

Bubble Baths, Wands + Machines 

Make Crowns + Tiaras -- out of tin foil and stickers.

Camp Indoors -- and go make smores in the air fryer.

Cardboard Box Coloring -- get a box + crayons and let them go to town.



Paint -- with brushes, fingers, sponges, cotton balls + swabs, macaroni // on paper, cardboard, rocks, pots, wood -- again, get creative, you have so much time to waste.

Make Paper Airplanes

Set Up a Car Wash -- for all the toy cars in the house.

Build a Rocket out of Cardboard -- or a fort, town, car, anything really.

Drumming Concert with Pots + Pans -- have some advil on hand mama, things may get wild.

Flour in A Baking Pan Art -- so messy, but the kids love it.

Bowling Tournament in The Hallway -- empty water bottles are my favorite pins!

Make Some Hats + Masks -- cardboard, markers and tape and waaaaa-laaaaa!

Go Fishing In The Living Room -- use a laundry basket as a boat, salad clippers as a rod and then toys as fish or you can cut out fish from construction paper if you're bored during naptime.

Read a Book Together

Floor is Lava Trail -- throw some pillows on the floor and ruuuuuun!

Have A Balloon Party -- blow up some balloons, toss them in the air, play catch, draw faces on them, go wild.

Play Hide & Seek -- now is the time to go old school, mama.

Play with Flashlights -- make some animal shadows with your hands or just let the kids have some fun before bedtime.

Sing Silly Songs -- head shoulders knees and toes on repeat people!

Play with Magnets -- letters, animals, planet magnets from Amazon or whatever you have on hand.

Toss Toys + Soft Balls into a Laundry Basket -- make them future into stars of the NBA & WNBA

Jump On Some Bubble Wrap

Play Dress Up & Throw A Fashion Show -- old clothes and accessories have never been so in!

Have An Indoor Picnic 

Coffee Filter Art -- let them use markers and then sprinkle water over them or dip them in colored water.

Mountain Climbing -- pile pillows in the middle of the living room and challenge them to a climb off

Practice Cutting with Plastic Knife & Banana

Play Some Guessing Games -- animal sounds, vehicle sounds, etc.

Stack Blocks Until The Tower Falls 

Soooooo, yah, so much fun to be had at home, am I right? What are some of the things y'all are doing to keep your little ones occupied during this time of social distancing? I'd love to hear in the comments.



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2.06.2020

A Freshful Start in 2020




This post is sponsored by Gerber! All thoughts and opinions are 100% my own.

Hi friends! Today I'm partnering up with Gerber to share one of the things that have helped make life with three little ones a bit easier for us since I started working this November. Because my husband is studying for his nursing boards while I'm away at work, I like to leave him with tools to help him feel prepared when it comes to taking care of the boys when I'm away. With a growing baby and toddlers in the house, it's important to me that they all get good nutritious food, so Gerber® Freshful Start™  is my go-to when I am not at home because I know it's made with organic fruits and veggies.




In addition to being organic, I love that Gerber® Freshful Start™ is non-GMO and has no preservatives. It gives this mama peace of mind that baby boy is getting the very best from the very start and that I am choosing the most nutritious options for all my little guys. Gerber is a brand I have grown to trust. I remember my mom buying Gerber baby food for my little brothers when I was growing and now that I have kids of my own, I am turning to Gerber for the same reason my mom did -- history, quality and the attention they give to the consumer's wants and needs.

I really love that Freshful Start™ is a fresh tasting, cooked with love line has so many options -- from purees, to ready to blend kits, to entree bowls there is something for all stages + seasons of life. Because our baby boy is a supported sitter, we are currently using the purees and the ready to blend kits for him, but my toddlers really love the entree bowls. There's an option for everyone and that makes food prep so much easier on the most chaotic, on the go type of days.





I love having the entree bowls because they can complement dishes that I am already preparing. It's perfect for those days when I am late coming home from work and  I am in a hurry to get food on the table for all my little guys. I can also pair two of the dishes together for a full meal or I can rest assured that my little guys are getting veggies after I realize I didn't prepare a side dish for the evening -- y'all the Freshful Start™ line is perfect for busy lifestyles!

Gerber® Freshful Start™ can be found at your local Walmart in the refrigerated section of the baby food aisle!




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1.01.2020

2020 :: Resolutions and Goals


HAAAAAAAAPPY NEW YEAAAAAAAAR! Here's to the new decade. So excited for this year! I thought it'd be fun to do a new year's resolution type of post because why not? I usually make a list and then forget all about it, but c'mon now.... that's half the fun.

 In this coming year, I resolve to: 

drink more water. 


this is something that is on my list every year because I am so terrible at it. ya'll it's bad. I need to drink a ton of water and this is the year I'm gonna try to do it because I need to. I'm always dehydrated and that's not good, so let's get it. I'm thinking 100 oz a day -- is that overkill or can I do it?

lose at least 60 pounds. 


everyone has a weight loss goal on their list, it almost seems cliche, but I really need to do this. I am the heaviest I have ever been and I feel ridiculous. not to mention the fact that I am getting tired of everyone commenting on how skinny I used to be. I hate the way I look in pictures too. I really miss my body and being able to fit in my clothes. I am determined to lose all the extra baby weight. 

start exercising again. 


another cliche, but still a good one. I want to exercise at least 3 times a week. I used to run in high school and it was really refreshing to get off the treadmill, look in the mirror and see the sweat dripping -- it made me feel accomplished (plus, a shower after an intense workout is the best feeling). This resolution was originally to walk an hour a day, but since I live in a rainy city, that's not really reasonable -- what I do know is that I want to get back to that fit and fresh type of feels. I'll walk when the weather permits it. & when it doesn't, then mama is hitting the gym. 

love on my little family as much as possible. 


having a healthy intact family is such a blessing, especially in today's world. I want my sons and husband to know that I love them tremendously, but not only that -- I want them to really feel it too.

conquer the art of applying eyeliner. 


this is something I have been avoiding since the beginning of forever. I've tried a few times and have epically failed. something about eyeliner is just so intimidating. giving myself 365 days to perfect the cat-eye. This is always on my new year resolution list and each year, I put if off, so yes, I am about to put it on the list again in hopes I master it in 2020.

drink more tea. 


because that's the epitome of sophistication is it not? also, I really love the idea of unwinding after a long day with a cuppa + my bible in hand. 

establish a skincare routine. 


I take care of my skin, but I feel like I'm lacking consistency lately (it's a common theme at my house), but it hasn't always been this way. Having three kids really does minimize "me time" to the point where you pass on things you maybe shouldn't. 

spend more time doing devotionals. 


this is a resolution that I have every year and at the end of each year, I look back and wish that I would have spent more time in the Lords presence. I am wanting to do an intense study on the books people skip by -- Leviticus, Numbers and Deuteronomy. 

expand my blogging gig. 

this is is a given, but also important because I really want to focus on consistency this year. I am hoping to really focus on more content and the community aspect of it. I've been guilty of focusing on Instagram in the past, but this year, I want to really focus on the blog, the email list and taking more pictures. 

say no to toxic friendships + relationships.

I have a  hard time with this one because I find leaving people behind so dang hard. I invest so much in a friendship, and then time and time again, I am left giving more than I am receiving -- which is fine to a point. Buuuuuuut, this year I want to focus on good healthy relationships with people who want to see me thrive and support me like I do them. 

budget and start saving for my dream / forever home. 

Yup. It's time to get that savings up, so we can buy a plot of land and build the home of our dreams. This is a resolution that is going to be on the list for the next few years, but so hoping to get closer to our goal this year. 

.... so there you have it -- some of my goals & aspirations for the year to come. I'd love to hear some of yours in the comments. 


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12.29.2019

25 Days of Gift Guides :: Recap


Welp, I made it to 16 days and then abruptly stopped.

I know, I knooooow -- I was on a roll and it there were only 9 more days, but my entire family got the stomach flu and I just couldn't put in the effort. Y'all, one by one, we fell. & some of my extended family got it too. It was bad. That, a new job with a shifting schedule, and realizing that I hadn't wrapped any gifts (& still having to wrap up my holiday shopping) on the 20th left me with 0 levels of hope to continue the gift guide series.

I did blogmas a few years back and made it to day 19 before an out of state trip threw me off schedule then too. So, I guess what I'm saying is that this mama definitely does not have it all together. It's something I've come to term with and I'm okay with that.

I'm not that blogger that gives off that perfect life, so organized, all her ducks in a row type of gal. I'm the run with it, let's see where this goes type of gal. #noshameinmygame.

Maybe I'll do better next year -- yeaaaaaah, we'll go with that.

I hope you had a wonderful holiday and I'll see ya'll in the next decade! Here's to a wonderful successful 2020.



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